Zander in front of his school with his "mini Zander" homework projectLast Tuesday was the beginning of a new phase for our family. I'm calling it the Elementary School Phase. I was expecting some transitional tantrums from all parties(John and I included) and I have not been disappointed. It's been a little rough, actually, but I think that there are smoother roads ahead. (I hope) John was working 12-14 hour days last week and between staying up too late and a shortage of patience our home was not exactly a haven.
Me and my boys, picking Zander up from schoolI'm not sure what I was expecting, but I can say that it was probably not realistic. Maybe I thought that by Kindergarten Zander would be all grown up and act more like an eighteen-year-old instead of a five-year-old? Yeah, I know, super realistic. Maybe I was thinking that when my oldest went to Kindergarten I would have tons of free-time to do what I wanted to do? Maybe I forgot that I had two other little boys at home who were going through their own transistions, missing their big brother? Yeah, selfish, I know.
Zander and Mrs. Curtis, his teacherI've been thinking alot about why the tanrums, tears, and acting out have multiplied exponetially since school started last Tuesday and my best guess is that I forgot who I am and what my primary jobs are. So there you have it. Just keeping it real, friends. This weeks mission: remember who I am and what my primary jobs are. I'm Trachelle and I'm a wife and mother. The End.
P.S. Wish me luck!
10 comments:
Yea ZANMAN! You are awesome! This year will go by so fast. It was amazing to me how it was over in the blink of an eye.
Tell me about it Trachelle! I thought I would have all this extra time last year too! And now this year with Wes in school all day. Nope, not this year either. And Brooke is twice as lonely this year with him gone all day. It is interesting to see how having one of them gone interupts the rest of the kids. They love each other and depend on each other!
Good luck wife and mother...it was nice to meet you!
@Amy
Thanks for the well wishes! I'll keep you updated on all our prioritized progress in future posts.
I'm so nervous for Calvin to start school next fall! I just know I'm going to ball and ball, having to leave my sweet boy at a strange place all day with a stranger teaching him!
You are so right though, just because they start school, doesn't mean they change at all. I keep thinking as soon as both my boys get itno school, I'll be able to go back to college, go to the gym, shopping, but what if I have another kid? Our wishful thinking isn't always the reality! Good post!!
I hear you Trachelle. I was kinda looking forward to school starting again because the fighting at home was getting too much and I thought with Davey and Rainer full time, I'd have all this time to get stuff done. Turns out Ellie misses her bros and in now underfoot every moment and I too forgot what my main job was. Thanks for reminding me! (I feel so guilty about Ellie--she doesn't think it's fun to watch me clean. It makes me sad to see her playing alone. I'm not good playing barbies. I need to learn.)
Oh, I miss him so much! He looks so mature and old! He looks like he fits right in at Kindergarten. The boys (Asher especially) looks very happy to be picking him up from school. I love it! This is just the beginning! I hope he has more wonderful days! I miss you guys!
I am sure Zander is loving it. It is hard because they are around other kids all the time at school and pick up on lots of new things, some that you would rather that they didn't! Hopefully Asher and Tiernan will get closer. This gives Asher the chance to be in charge and the boss! At least for a couple hours. Post more pictures of the boys, I love to see them!
Oh Trachelle, Isn't motherhood just what we expected.....yeah right. I know we love it, but it is still challenging...to say the least. My Asher, which someone referred to as the 'big Asher' today at Joy School, doesn't enjoy having Shira in school all day. He gets lonely not having anyone to play with. And I get lonely for my one and only real helper. We'll have to hook up on those rough days and let them play on the tramp while it's still decent weather outside. Call anytime.
Thank-you all for your encouragement. Ya'll are the best!
Your boys are adorable! Your post is so on target. When I get caught up in what I want to get done and forget about my primary "job", as mom and wife, then everything seems to fall apart. It was worse when my boys were younger, but it still happens now. I guess to constantly remind of what I'm here for.
@ Sheri
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